Sunday, May 8

Kodak Moment: A Moment with Ma

In celebration of Mother's Day, I will post a few pix of Ma and I. I don't think she'll mind. Everyone in a 20 mile radius of Mount Holly knows who she is. You might say that living with the most popular high school science teacher in the county is like living with a local celebrity. You could probably get more people to come to your event if you get her to come to your event as a judge or MC. She has the same power as my high school journalism/English teacher who was not only popular but also young and hot! I say that carefree because he doesn't have a Facebook and probably isn't aware of my blog... Everyone knows it. Am I right, Warriors?
But back to Ma...
Lighting my birthday candles on a cake she went and got specially made
Riding the waves in the Outer Banks
At Catman's. Ma was the one who encouraged my love for animals
She drove all the way to Cullowhee to see me dance for five minutes
Shopping at Kohl's



Photo of the Day May 8

This was taken after we got most of the stuff moved into Morgan's apartment. My summer in a town other than Mount Holly starts now!!
As of right now, my summer has consisted of unpacking and reading while Morgan's at work. We arrived in Raleigh just in time for Mother's Day where The Angus Barn prepares a gigantic buffet for all the mothers and their children who take them there and then let the father pay. By the way - the Angus Barn is FREAKING HUGE (!!!!) and hey, Ma!! I hope you're having a good Mother's Day. Make sure Kate treats you right!

10. The Children of Men

Book 10: The Children of Men by P.D. James (C+)

AAHHHHHH!!!!! This book!!! I'm going to throw it across the room!!! Let me just say that whether you enjoyed the movie based off the book or not... the movie is so much better!
After the reading the book, I would say that the movie that followed is based off the idea of the book! In the year 2021, the human perception of being invincible is shattered as every male on earth is infertile and the last group of children are now in their mid-20's. A British man "enjoying" a boring life filled with regrets and ponderings about the world is thrown into more craziness than just an infertile world when a woman approaches him to ask his cousin, the Warden and unspoken ruler of England, to amend his corrupt government, which include state-owned porn shops to stimulate desire and carnal relations between the sexes and mass formal suicides for elderly people. When that fails, the woman returns to our main character, Theo, and tells him she is carrying the world's only child.
Here's the dumb thing about the book... In the movie, the woman who comes to Theo for help is not pregnant and is his ex-wife. In that, there is incentive for him to be curious and help her. They've known each other for a long time. They have a history. In the book, the woman who comes forward is the pregnant woman and has no relation to Theo at all. In fact, none of her friends do either. So besides the obvious connection for them to tap him as he's the cousin to the Warden.... why the (expletive word of your choice) does he help THEM?
Clive Owen and Julianne Moore in the film adaptation
The bizarre and the confusing continue from there as the entire first half of the book is a slow melodrama of Theo talking about life in the 1990's... a life I have and most people who will read the book have experienced. So, why do you need to write about it?? Page after useless and pointless page continues from there with some detailed and confusing discussion about the relationship between Theo and his ex-wife, whose only role in the book is to point out Theo's many faults as a husband before the great disaster of infertility and to also show how women have flipped out and started using kittens or life-like dolls as a supplement for the now nonexistent children. 
The book is dry and strikes me as a brilliant idea without any drive behind it. Many argue that the movie isn't great, but at least Hollywood took a genius idea of "what is a world like without children" and gave it some depth. This could have been a wonderful book if the author had turned it into a nonfiction speal just about a world without children instead of a involving a cast of characters with less personality then the driest of high school history or math teachers. Bursts of brilliance include the paragraphs describing the 2021 idea of sex now that getting pregnant is no longer an option:
"Sex has become among the least important of man's sensory pleasures. One might have imagined that with the fear of pregnancy permanently removed, the unerotic paraphernalia of pills, rubber and ovulation arthimetic no longer necessary, sex would be freed for new and imaginative delights. The opposite has happened. Even those men and women who would normally have no wish to breed apparently need the assurance that they could have a child if they wished. Sex totally divorced from procreation has become almost meaninglessly acrobatic. Women complain increasingly of what they describe as painful orgasms: the spasm acheived but not the pleasure. Pages are devoted to this common phenomenon in the women's magazines. Women, increasingly critical and intolerant of men throughout the 1980's and 1990's, have at last an overwhelming justification for the pent-up resentment of centuries. We who can no longer give them a child cannot even give them pleasure. Sex can till be a mutual comfort; it is seldom a mutual ecstasy. The government-sponsored porn shops, the increasingly explicit literature, all the devices to stimulate desire-none as worked...(116)"
Or the short paragraph on divorce... This has nothing to do with infertility or the future. It's just an amazing description of the pain that two adults go through with this kind of permanent separation that makes me wonder just how brilliant this writer could be!
"A failed marriage is the most humiliating confirmation of the transitory seduction of the flesh. Lovers can explore every line, every curve and hollow, of the beloved's body, can together reach the height of inexpressible ecstasy; yet how little it matters when love or lust at last dies and we are left with disputed possessions, lawyers' bills, the sad detritus of the lumber-room, when the house chosen, furnished, possessed with enthusiasm and hope has become a prison, when faces are set in lines of peevish resentment and bodies no longer desired are observed in all their imperfections with a dispassionate and disenchanted eye" (115).
The book brings to light a concept most of us have never considered - what would happen in a world without children? The schools have closed. There are no more teachers, babysitters, pediatricians, or midwives. The world of youth with its new trends, new music is gone. There are no more baby clothes, no more youthful laughter. Even still, some, although few, are glad it's gone.
One of Theo's Oxford professors explained his opinion as: "On the whole I'm glad; you can't mourn for unborn grandchildren when there never was a hope of them. This planet is doomed anyway. Eventually the sun will explode or cool and one small insignificant particle of the universe will disappear with only a tremble. If man is doomed to perish, then universal infertility is as painless a way as any. And there are, after all, personal compensations. For the last sixty years we have sycophantically pandered to the most ignorant, the most criminal and the most selfish section of society. Now, for the rest of our lives, we're going to be spared the intrusive barbarism of the young, the noise, their pounding, repetitive, computer-produced so-called music, their violence, their egotism disguised as idealism. My God, we might even succeed in getting rid of Christmas, the annual celebration of parental guilt and juvenile greed..." (45). 
Those few moments of genius writing, however, were not enough to save the book. I suggest that if you want to witness a view of an infertile world... rent the movie. At least, you get to stare a Clive Owen for a couple of hours!!
Works cited from:
James, P.D. The Children of Men. New York: Vintage Books, May 2006. Print.


Thursday, May 5

Photo of the Day May 5

Happy Cinco de Mayo, everyone!!!!
Today's picture is of Remington. Remember that kitten I brought home for Ma one day? This is him!!! And, he grew up! He is an insane little kitty and ultimately fluffy (just like Ma wanted). He loves to bite while playing and will eat and eat and eat and eat!


Monday, May 2

An Open Letter to The Viking

Hey,
 How are you?
The last time we spoke to each other was a year ago today. So much has changed, so much hasn't. I wish all of this could be in person. I wish you'd actually be able to see this. I miss you.
I've been thinking about what I'd say to you here for weeks. It changes every day. I'm sure when I look back at this tomorrow I'll think of something I should have said and run it through my mind a thousand times wishing I had written it instead of something else or added a line or two, that all of my feelings were completely conveyed in what I'm about to write. Just another regret.
How are you and her? I heard you told her everything. I wish I had been there afterward to tell you both how sorry I am for everything that happened. It's not completely my fault, but some days, I take all the blame. That's all I want - to tell especially her how sorry I am to her face and not over an impersonal Facebook message through her roommate's account. I tried, I tried so hard to get her to talk to me. You did your best to make sure I didn't, and then you two together made sure we'd never speak again. I was never so hurt, shocked, and lost in my entire life. I won't tell you how low I sunk after that moment because I don't want you to have the satisfaction. But, it hurt. You knew how to hurt me the worst.
Maybe you weren't even thinking about me when you did it. But there had to be a part of you that knew how badly I'd feel when I learned from some stranger I could never talk to you again. Looking back, I told you "never to contact me again," but did I really mean it? No, not in the long run.
I'm transferring at the end of this semester. I'm going far across the state where there aren't any mountains or piles of snow. And yes, I'm running away from you and her and everything that happened. There's not a place on campus that doesn't remind me of you or her. I have to get out of here. I hate walking into a room and immediately scanning the room for red hair and my skin jumping when I see someone who looks like you. I can't stay here anymore, and I think you'd like to know that I'm leaving. Now you don't have worry about me anymore either.
What happened? Please, explain to me what happened! How did someone I share secrets with and let so far into myself now be unable to look me in the eye when we pass each other in the dining hall? Do you hate me? Does anger boil over inside every time you see me? Because it doesn't for me! I just feel an overwhelming sense of loss and an aching void. Is that sad and pathetic to still feel a year later?
Do you remember the good times we had? Watching a concert on DVD in your room the day before we left for Christmas Break as I helped you with a button on your shirt after we had unbunked your beds. Running up to you after I had finished my last exam and you swinging me up into a hug. Carrying me back to Walker after my sugar dropped when we were at Wal-Mart. Trying to convince me to skip class and stay with you for the afternoon in your room. Watching "Spongebob" one night and you tried to tickle my feet. Staring at each other in horror in my dorm room after Miles told her what he thought he knew. Did you trick me then... did you make me lie for you because you knew I'd do whatever it took to make you happy?
Part of me wonders if you were ever the person I thought you were. In some ways you have to be. Lisa told me about the person you were in high school, the same person that I thought I knew. Now it seems I've probably created and fabricated personality quirks about you that either don't exist or aren't to that extreme. Sometimes, I get the character you play in my novel mixed up with who you actually are. The person you are... are you a coward for not confronting me yourself and getting someone else to say the "bad" things for you? Are you brave and protective for "saving" your girlfriend from me? Or are you a vindictive, son of a bitch for what we did to her? Because you can bend the truth all you want, lovely, but that doesn't make what we did go away.
I'm glad she knows. When Lisa told me what happened, I was so relieved. Finally, I thought! Finally, that poor girl knows the truth and I can stop hoping and wondering and praying for the relationship that she was caught in. No one should have to live in someone else's lie. I wish I knew why you told her, where the light bulb came from. In the end, it doesn't matter. Thank you for doing it - for whatever reason you did - thank you.
You asked me once if I hated you. I never did. I've missed you and have cared about you since we were first together in November of 2009. I occasionally ask Cory how you are, if you're alright. If anything ever happened to you...well, I'd probably break every rule and I'd be there to make sure you were ok. I never hated you. I just miss your company. What I do hate is what happened between us. We both could have handled things better.
After all that's happened though, it's time to move on. You're never going to seek me out and apologize in person. I'm not allowed to. I have to accept that. I want you to know that as sad as this letter sounds I am happy. You might not care, I think you might, but I am happy. My life isn't perfect, but it's better than it was. There's this great guy who takes such good care of me. He's been so patient while I've been dealing with all of this. You two have similar music tastes to a certain extent. I think you'd like that about him. I'm very happy for you. I'm so happy, sincerely happy, that you and her are still together, that you've gotten through all of this and have stayed together... as long as it's for the right reasons. I hope you two last and I wish only the best for you both.
Now, it's time for good bye. I really do hope I hear from you again.  I do. In my dreams or my nightmares, we're good friends again. But for now, this is good bye. I hope you have a great summer and you find whatever you're looking for in this life.
Until then,
Lex

The End of the Catamount Era

Thursday was my last day of college classes as a Western Carolina University student. This week is just a lot of exams!!
Twister Night
A sadness overwhelmed me on Thursday, to look around and know it was the end. No one could understand. When I texted Morgan that it was my last day, he sent back "Wohoo!" But that wasn't what I was feeling at all. So much has happened in the last two years, so many amazing or horrendous things. I guess you could say they were all amazing in either a good or bad way. Honestly, I couldn't tell you exactly if there was more good than bad or vice versa. I think it was an close equal dose of both.
Don't get me wrong. I'm not regretting my decision to transfer at all! No, I'd never regret that... unless I got to Greensboro and it's a holy disaster, but I'm confident that won't be the case.
But I am sad that I'm leaving behind good friends, a good job, and a beautiful view of the mountains. I wish I could take them with me, except the mountains (at least for Little Honda's benefit).
The following was written for The Western Carolinian in my column "Off Campus Living 101:"
Climbing a tree
"Catamounts, this is not only the last "Off Campus Living 101" article, it is also my last editorial column working for The Western Carolinian.
"I am saddended that for the fall semester I will not be returning to Western Carolina University. Instead, I am transferring to finish out my college career in a place that I hope will bring me new opportunities, new networks, and new experiences. In August, Sparta and I will be moving out of our Cullowhee apartment into a rented house in a quiet suburb to be near one of the UNC mid-state college campuses. It will be a big adjustment for both of us - me to be living in a house and the work that goes into that and Sparta adjusting to living with a Labrador retriever and another cat. It should be interesting!
Honors College Formal
"I wanted to take the time to thank everyone at The Western Carolinian for supporting me and helping me shape and strengthen my writing. When I started as a contributing writer in the Arts and Entertainment section working for free, I never thought I would become News Editor, at least not in the span of less than two years! Also, I would like to thank the readers who would randomly come up to me if they realized who I was to share their excitement about Sparta or my rain boot fiasco last year. You guys were the reason I asked Justin Caudell if I could start "The Freshman Fifteen" and writing that column and this has been my favorite part of my job.

Birthday dinner
"My two years at Western have been nothing less than exciting and dramatic. I have learned so much and grown as a person. College was nothing like what I expected and certainly attending college in the little town of Cullowhee is not for the faint-hearted. The incoming freshman class of 2009 and I have faced being snowed-in over Christmas break, endless rain, power outages, losing a chancellor and gaining a new one, and the invasion of zombies! The experiences I have had and the people I have met will never leave my memory, and I hope to visit on occasion for shows at FPAC, Mountain Heritage Day, and other events that can be found only at Western Carolina..."
In response to my hard work and dedication, I received this award from Justin and The Western Carolinian. I was shocked, thrilled, proud, and sad simultaneously. Thank you to everyone there. This is will always hang on one of my walls:

Sunday, May 1

9. Northern Lights

Book 9: Northern Lights by Nora Roberts (A-)

Such an interesting book! I bought this book at the City Lights bookstore for $1, and I really wasn't expecting much from it. I naturally figured that a book for a $1 had to be marked that low for some reason. So, my expectations were low. Maybe that was why it was such a thrill to read. It was hard to put down.
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In a small town called Lunacy in Alaska, a new chief of police, Nate, comes in from Baltimore. He is running from a dark past of an ex-wife who cheated on him and a partner dying in his arms. Nate decides to dive into his depression in the middle of an Alaskan winter when there are only a few hours of daylight. Instead, he surprisingly finds love in the town with a girl, Meg, who refuses to make a commitment, except to her dogs. They obviously fall in love as the town's secrets become exposed.
A few boys went hiking up a nearby mountain called No Name and discovered a frozen corpse with an ax in his chest - the corpse of Meg's father who checked out of her family sixteen years earlier. All hell breaks loose with the local newspaperman and family man shooting himself in the head with a typed confession on his computer of killing Meg's father. Then, strange things began to occur in the town like Meg's house getting baited with meat causing a black bear to attack her dogs, a local elderly dog being brutally murdered in the middle of the town, and strange vandalism. As the reader, you try to put together the clues with Nate while falling in love with the town of Lunacy and hoping Meg opens up her heart to a heck of a police chief.

I haven't read a murder mystery in awhile, and I readily enjoyed it. I believe I've read Nora Roberts before. I forgot she's such a good writer!! Did you know she's written over 150 books?!! My gosh!!! That's got to be some kind of a record. 
I was quite impressed with how detailed the town was and how even minor characters played important roles in the story. The plot was also so much more than just trying to find out who murdered Meg's father. That's something I need to work on in my own books - multiple plot lines and depth that go below the main crisis.
Ultimately, this book has kind of been tainted thanks to the made-for-TV movie that followed. I believe it premiered on Lifetime... don't hold me to that but it wouldn't surprise me if it had. I don't know if the movie's bad or not, but the whole reason it's sort of "tainted" is because the two lead actors had an adulterous affair with each other in real life during or shortly after filming. And, they just got married like last weekend to each other! Kind of makes you not want to support the movie... or maybe even the book!
Overall, a very enjoyable book. Definitely pick it up!! You might get an awesome read for $1 too!!